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Women cannot indulge in anal fisting because they are not built that
way
Rubbish! It is not necessarily the easiest
form of penetration if you are trying to enter deeply, due to the fact
that "the rectum is not straight. After the short anal canal which
connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts toward
the front of the body. A few inches in, it curves back - sometimes as much
as 90 degrees. Then, after a few more inches, it swoops toward the
front of the body once again. A person can learn about the shape of his
or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles
and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object
has a flared base so that if you loose your grip, it won't slip into the
rectum and become irretrievable. " (Morin)
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This is a pic of the lower digestive tract, the
same in both men and women, though of course the guys have a prostate advantage.
As you can see, there are plenty of twists and turns in there, but unlike
the vagina, the ass is not "closed", so deeper penetration is possible
with practice. |
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.Women do
not have the physiology to enjoy anal fisting even if they can do it
OK, let's blow this one away as quickly as
possible. Quoting Tristan
Taormina "Physiologically, the anal area is rich in nerve endings,
making it incredibly sensitive to stimulation. Women can also have our
g-spots stimulated through anal penetration. Research now indicates that
the clitoris is not just that little nub under the hood, but a complex
set of internal nerves connected to pelvic muscles, what many sexologists
call "the sprawling clitoral body." The expansion of the clitoris and our
knowledge about it have contributed to a new vision of women's internal
makeup and the orgasmic process. In addition, as anal expert Dr. Jack Morin
points out, "The anal sphincters are intricately linked with all the other
pelvic muscles; Masters and Johnson noted that they go into glorious spasms
at exactly the same rate [as our genitals]. Every orgasm is, at least in
part, an anal orgasm." So the anus is clearly a part of the orgasmic process."
In addition, pressure in the anus directly behind the clitoral area
can really drive you wild. As the helpful Morin notes, "Rectal
pressure is especially important to enthusiasts of "fisting," a form of
anal sex in which several fingers or even the entire hand and forearm are
inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower colon. (Morin)
The anus is a wonderful place to have stimulated in a wide variety of ways,
and fisting is the one which gives perhaps the maximum amount of them all.
It is certainly not to be written off through fear or disgust without at
least an effort being made. You might well find the results worth
the perseverance.
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Anal fisting always hurts
| Of course ANY anal penetration can hurt.
However, I am not advocating a rushed full on entry from the get go.
Take it slowly. You have a long time, and the practice is fun.
The following sequence (deleting penises if you are not partial to them)
is a sensible path to follow. "Then came more fingers, tongues, vibrators,
small dildos, bigger dildos, butt plugs, bigger butt plugs, penises, even
an entire small hand." (Taormina)
For a fanstastic Fisting FAQ visit
Redright, which,
although a gay man's site, has so much wealth of generalized information
and insight that it is one of the most revered tomes on the subject. As
he points out, when asked how long does it take to learn to take a fist?:
"That depends on what your ass has done before. Starting from being able
to accept something the size of a large cock/dildo in your ass it can take
years of steady play before you are ready to accept a hand inside. If you've
played with larger toys you're already part way there. Generally, if a
person can take a dildo about 3 inches (7.62 cm) in width their asshole
is physically ready to take a fist. Their head may be another matter."
Therein lies a very useful point. You're largest sex organ is your
brain. Mental attitude is extremely important, and learning to relax
and trust is the basis of all successful anal fisting. |
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All women who enjoy anal fisting are lesbians
Definitely not so! "Liking anal stimulation
does not equal homosexuality.
Many men and women enjoy having their anuses
stimulated or stimulating it themselves during masturbation. On the
other hand, some gay men do not.
...the two have no connection with each
other." (Dr
Sandor Gardos) |
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All women who enjoy anal fisting are into "gender play", or think they
are men or boys
Nope, wrong again. Plenty of women, both gay
and straight, engage in fisting, without the fantasy of gender play.
There are also plenty of women who ARE into gender fluid roles who love
it as well. What are "Sirs, bois, Daddies, grrls etc"? Well
I was trying to keep it simple, but actually, as is recounted in Gender
Crash, trying to label people is futile, and belonging to any particular
sub-group means little regarding who might or might not be engaging in
any activity. "I realized that there is no open mic, performance
space, or poetry slam that would be comfortable for my partner, myself,
or many of my friends that identified as trans/gender queer/butch/fairy/queen/dyke/boy
chick/bear/ bisexual/and all the other labels & identities that don't
fit into those two tiny boxes called male-female. So I started Gender Crash
to give a performance space to this community...my community, because I
want to see/hear/feel everything that you, the trans/gender/ queer/butch/fairy/queen/
dyke/boy chick/bear/bisexual/and all the other labels & identities
that don't fit into those two tiny boxes called male-female are creating/writing/
and living."
No one is exempt. There are so many
possible orientations and persuasions that it is ridiculous to argue that
one can exclude ANY group, from the most mainstream to the most unusual,
from ANY activity. |
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Only butch women get into doing anal fisting
| Certainly plenty of them do. Some of them
(surprise surprise) are also into receiving. The emergence of the
so called "butch bottom", who may be vanilla or BDSM, and into or not into
gender play has been something of a revelation to both hets and gay women
alike over recent years. Gender players such as "bois" "brats" and
"bearcubs" are also sometimes into receiving. In advising a butch
woman who did not feel like receiving vaginal penetration with her girlfriend,
Lesbian
Nation very helpfully and sensibly advised: "You might enjoy anal penetration,
which can provide you with plenty of erotic stimulation and offer her the
opportunity to penetrate you, if that’s what she likes. The anus is an
extremely sensitive and delicate area of the body, filled with nerve endings
that respond to sexual attention. Best of all, the anus is un-gendered:
Everybody has one." |
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Only femme women get into receiving anal fisting
As above with the butches, many femmes are
into receiving. Some of them are also into giving. A woman looking
like a prom queen might be called a femme, but she might be as voraciously
dominant in attitude as any tough looking butch. This applies to
the many women offering Professional Dominance services, the best directory
of which is HERE. However,
there are plenty of non-professional femmes who are into giving out some
very intense sex with their partners, who may be men, or other femmes,
or butch women who enjoy having a femme dominate them. I can speak
from personal experience here (private smile). It certainly helps to let
go of preconceptions about femmes. As one femme
woman writes: "My definition of Femme is the
appearance and mannerisms that one visibly
associates with the actions and look of "ladylike" demeanors. The definition
does not transcend into the bedroom analysis, because even in being Femme
there are levelsFemme tops, strictly bottoms, Femmebutches, ultra
Femmes, and the list goes on." Indeed it does. Trying to define people
and slot them into neat categories defining who does what to whom is pointless.
As one womens' group, MOB,
points out:"Among our members are FemmeTops, Androgynous Subs, Wild Women,
Butch Boys, Leather Grrl Switches, Packing Daddies, Pain Sluts, and Women
of Questionable Morality. If you don't see yourself here, we probably
just haven't met you yet." |
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Only BDSM players get into anal fisting
| Many BDSM players are into anal fisting, male
and female, for reasons that may involve dominance and submission revolving
around physical and mental pleasure, or which revolve around the recipient
enjoying a certain amount of anal pain which does not put him or her in
danger. However, many vanilla people enjoy this form of stimulation.
Why? Good old fashioned pleasure really. "Both men and women
can respond orgasmically to anal sex without direct genital stimulation.
Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority
even through the sheer excitement of being anally penetrated." (Morin) |
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A man cannot anally fist a woman
Click HERE.
I rest my case. Check out the opening pic, and the rest if you want.
While not a site I like, it illustrates the point. Yet another peerless
pic
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from another
pointless site - all visual and no "how to" advice.
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Anal fisting must be "messy"
| Wrong wrong wrong! Some people like
to douche or enema before anal sex as a precautionary measure. Wearing
gloves is a wise practice always. Many experienced fisters
avoid high roughage diets and fruit for a day or two and stoke up on pizza
or pasta type food prior to an anal assignation. No point in tempting
fate. Others worry that fisting anally will induce their bowel
to evacuate. This is usually when you are new to the sensations.
Once you learn that this feeling of being full is NOT an enormous wad of
excrement, "people enjoy the feelings of pressure and fullness once they
understand that these sensations do not presage an impending bowel movement."
(Morin) How true |
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Anal fisting makes your anus loose or damages it longterm
| Another myth explodes into tatters.
You will not have reduced control, awkward bowel movements or get haemorrhoids
from anal sex. In fact your anus might actually tighten due to regular
exercise! Why? Well, surprise surprise, "The anal sphincter muscle
is designed to expand and contract an unlimited number of times.
Stretching it will not make it any less able to constrict, just as
stretching your hamstrings does not make them weaker. There have
even been a number of long-term studies which found that there was
absolutely no loss of muscle tone or the ability to contract regardless
of the amount of anal sex a person has had." (Dr
Sandor Gardos) |
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If you enjoy anal fisting you are sick and/or perverted
| Well, what can one say? Dr
Gloria Brame, commenting on so-called deviance in general, states:
"A fetishist may, by nature, be balanced and happy; but if he or she is
routinely ostracized and derided for his or her fetish, you can be sure
it will create some psychological problems." Now whose fault is that?
What happened to live and let live? My personal belief is that there
is no point in trying to convince those who think that this form of sex
is perverse of any other view. They will think it anyway. You just
cease to seek or care about the approval of others. So I am giving the
last word to Alice, who very sensibly concludes that "...perhaps
the sexual orientation of someone who finds pleasure in any part of his-
or herself is far less important than his or her awareness and recognition
that our bodies are ours to enjoy -- or to ignore -- if we
so choose."(Alice) |
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